We need someone so superhumanly powerful that we and our alters can be protected every moment of every day without let up. What if such a Person actually exists and he longs to release you from all the pressure by shielding you and your other alters from danger every minute of every day? What if this Protector is divine and longs to fulfill your deepest dreams while keeping you safe and fulfilled?

This seemed like an impossible dream to me, but I eventually discovered that it really is true and that you, too, can enjoy this peace and fulfillment. Astoundingly, there really is someone who longs to fight your battles and be your shield and closest friend. He, as it were, took the bullet for you, literally dying in your place, suffering all that hell could throw at anyone and winning; rising triumphantly from the dead on your behalf.

I know from my own bitter experience just how hard it is to for protector alters to reach the point of trusting God so much as to hand over to him what for us is the unbearably enormous burden of protecting ourselves and other alters. After all, at least one human has cruelly violated our trust. God isn’t human – and that is an enormous reason for us not letting experiences with humans spoil our ability to trust him – but how can we be sure he is totally different from those who have let us down?

I have discovered that Jesus is the alter’s Alter; the protector’s Protector. He understands us – and everything we face – far better than we can understand ourselves. He has already defeated hell. All evil is scared of him. And yet we are victims of trauma and see our problems as all-consuming.

Trauma magnifies problems. When we find ourselves in a life-threatening situation it demands everything we have just to survive. In our traumatized state we can’t see beyond the problem and even when the danger subsides we remain petrified of a repeat, no matter how unlikely a repeat is.

Protector alters are like traumatized soldiers who after returning from the front line to the peace and safety of home remain on hyper-alert, continually scanning for non-existent snipers, hitting the floor whenever a car backfires, and so on. Their panic was once fully warranted but as the danger subsides they find themselves unable to come down from that state of hyper-alert.

In my slow journey all the way back from trauma to normality I found considerable help by taking to heart this truth from God:

1 Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.

The word here translated “temptation” is a broad word that includes trials (explanation).

Trials tempt us to believe that they are so enormous that no one else has ever suffered them and that we must therefore stand guard and face them alone.

But in this verse the God who cannot lie affirms that no temptation or trial is uncommon to humanity – and certainly not to Jesus who was tempted in every way.

Hebrews 2:18 Because he himself suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted.

Hebrews 4:15 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are – yet was without sin.

So every horror that we faced he has already faced. He is the author and finisher of our faith (Hebrews 12:2); both the trail-blazer and the one who completes the work. He has gone before us and knows the way out.

But what about my situation? I couldn’t let go. What if no one rescued me if I didn’t do it myself? I found help in this promise:

Hebrews 7:25 Therefore he is able to save completely those who come to God through him, because he always lives to intercede for them.

Jesus knows how you feel and intercedes for you; going to God on your behalf. As our high priest and intercessor, Jesus takes our burdens and pain upon himself before God and so powerfully identifies with us that he is able to save us completely or, as the King James Bible puts it, he is able to save “to the uttermost”.

He knew before time the magnitude of your problems and he fully prepared for them. He has already blazed the way out of the situation you are in and any future situation you will face.

Before you were born the cross had already redeemed you. Your pain, your sin, your problems were dealt with right back then.

You might say, “If God knew what would happen, and how much it would cost both him and us, why didn’t he stop it?”

Our pain, and the pain we have ended up inflicting upon others, is the last thing our loving God wants but because he is the exact opposite of an abuser, he refuses to force us to do what is right. If we – or others – insist on acting foolishly, he lets us, even though it hurts both him and us. Out of deep respect for us, he doesn’t force himself on us, but neither does he give up on us when we mess up. Instead, at horrific cost to himself, he has done all it takes to put things right again, and yet he still restrains his yearning to interfere and waits for us to come to our senses and let him help us. Even though a skilled, highly ethical surgeon can heal, he refuses to invade a person’s body without that person’s permission. Similarly, Jesus refuses to abuse his power. Despite his stupendous yearning to rescue you, he holds himself back, waiting for your permission.

There is One who suffered indescribable horrors on the cross for you and yet still restrains himself until you are willing. Even if no one else in the universe could be trusted, he can be trusted.

This isn’t just about faith; it is simple logic. If you were hopelessly lost in a cave, and a rescuer located you and offered to lead you out, you wouldn’t question if you could trust him; you would be smart enough to know you have no alternative. You would follow him to safety.

It is the same with Jesus. He knows the way out. There is no situation bigger than him. He has the ultimate authority.

You might want to object, “Yes, but, look at what happened to me.”

Are you dead? I think not. You were deeply hurt, but you are still alive. And Jesus has not only borne your pain and kept you alive, he knows the way to healing. He is asking you to come out of that dark cave of pain and into the light of healing.

Will you tell him, “No, I’m determined to figure the way out of this cave myself even though I don’t have enough water to last”? No one in a real cave would be that stupid, so why would you do that to your soul?

Trusting God isn’t as hard as hell makes it out to be. Of course the enemy of your soul does not want you to know that you are so tenderly loved by the most trustworthy person in the universe and that your cravings for safety can be filled. The safest place to be is trusting in God, the Divine, the Healer, the Champion of your faith and victory.

When alters begin to heal it is hard for protector alters to release their iron grip of control and yet this is essential to facilitate the healing of the alters they care for. Although I was doing my best, I discovered that I was not only protecting the other alters, but I was also unknowingly oppressing them. My way of protecting was to lock the alters away where I believed it was safe. But as good as my intentions were, it wasn’t real safety. I was just keeping them in hiding, which ended up keeping them from flourishing.

Protector alters have suffered such severe trauma that it has damaged their ability to know when risks are sufficiently low to be worth taking. Known as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, remaining excessively vigilant can end up not only needlessly stressing oneself but hurting those we long to help. When the Nazis were murdering Jews, Irena Sendler heroically smuggled to safety, a few at a time, over two thousand children in a tool box or sack. In that crisis her actions were highly justified but had she become so paranoid that she kept the children hidden in a confined space for years after the war, it would have been needlessly detrimental to their well-being, no matter how good the intentions. This is the tragic mistake that highly traumatized protector alters unknowingly make.

For example, Freedom was one of the alters I sought to protect. She lived in her spaceship and had dreams that she left dormant because I told her it was unsafe to act out those dreams. One such dream was gourmet cooking. I feared she would be crushed if someone did not like her attempts and I knew I did not have sufficient cooking ability to protect her if she got into any difficulties in preparing a dish. So I kept her suppressing her dreams. But now I am releasing her into God’s care and letting her have her dreams because I have discovered that, unlike me, God protects without holding alters back from reaching their full potential. God knows every danger and how to win without oppression. He knows what is safe and what risks are worth taking.

When I let God have his way with Freedom she began creating beautiful dishes for my husband that the rest of us also enjoy. I love her and wanted so much to protect her from hurt but it turned out that while I was doing my utmost to do this, I was actually keeping her from being herself and robbing her of fulfillment. God really is better than I am at helping alters. God loves me deeply and I am still a vital part of the system of alters but now all the pressure is off me to try to act like God. I am free to relax and heal and see my sister alters heal.

I love the way Freedom is now feeling safer and having fun. God looks after her and she is learning from him how to cook creatively. She is joining cooking groups online and having a ball exploring who she is. She is no longer hidden away on a spaceship, but truly living. I can rest now that God is control and I can heal; something protector alters cannot do when they are expending all their energy by being in charge.

I am learning that one of the tragic consequences of trauma is that for years afterwards one can be left with an exaggerated sense of danger. Severe trauma can be thought of as damaging one’s internal alarm system so that it cannot be reset. The alarm keeps blaring long after the original disturbance has ceased. As hard as it is, we need to stop believing our faulty alarm and start trusting God to keep us safe.

I know from experience how scary it seems to trust anyone, but with his infinite love, patience and wisdom, God truly is trustworthy and, although challenging, the adjustment of letting God be God is more than worth it.

Protector alters aren’t cowards! You have what it takes to courageously release your iron grip of control and truly heal. Protector alters aren’t oppressors, either. They truly want what is best for the others. I just want you fellow protector alters to realize that because God truly cares we don’t have to be on guard all the time and that by being on guard we are unintentionally holding back the ones we are trying to protect.

Freedom, I am so sorry for restricting you in the past. I never wanted to ever hurt you. I thought you were too dumb to protect yourself and that I was doing you a favor. You have always been a good friend and let me have my way, but as I let God take over I have seen how I oppressed you because I was afraid you would get hurt otherwise.

God is healing both of us and bring us into his glory, where both of us are safe and healing.

Related Pages

For much more insight and help, see:
Christian Resources: Index of Help for Dissociative Identity Disorder

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

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